How To Find Unconditional Love

Some thoughts on love without condition. We are controlled and control so much we don’t recognize how conditional we often are both with ourselves and others. “Love” is often a reward for meeting expectations.

What would life be like if love was always there? Do you feel the acceptance and understanding of another like warm blanket protecting you from the cold winter night. Well … kind of. Sometimes, though, you have to face the cold.

Consequences still exist with unconditional love. Unacceptable behavior still needs to be met and dealt with and that doesn’t always feel loving.

You have a life to live. Others may share in that life with you. Maybe, a few will walk with you for a lifetime. Regardless, you still have to live your life. You get to decide what your priorities are in your life.

In my life, for example, I’ve decided that my children, my life’s work, and my relationship with my (future) life partner, are my priorities. They don’t rank 1, 2, 3. The exist in a group supporting each other like a foundation supports a house. The rest of life can be arranged around serving that primary group of priorities.

Other people will make their choices differently. As a result their path in life will unfold differently than mine. Choices leading to consequences leading to more choices. Some of those choices will take people away from your life. And that is okay.

Unconditional love means being willing and able to let go. The love of your life doesn’t want to be with you? Can you let go, never to see him again and still love him?

This isn’t easy stuff.

In truth, most people do not know how to hold that kind of love and acceptance. It’s not in the nature of our physical experience. Everything in the outer world seems to require love with condition.

Finding Unconditional Love

• Relax your body.
• Notice yourself breathing.
• Feel your physical heart and the space it shares in your body.
• Now, feel it expand and envelope the other.
• Let all that they are known and unknown to you flow through your expansive heart.
• Don’t judge anything you witness. Don’t resist anything or attach to anything that you sense flowing through you. Just allow.

If you try this exercise you might find a new perspective on love. I know I did. There is a force or energy present when you allow your heart to handle the tough stuff in life. Love really is a force or an energy. It exists without condition which is why it is unconditional. Love doesn’t require you to do or be anything because it doesn’t come from you but is you and flows through you. You don’t find Unconditional Love. Unconditional Love has already found you!